So, What is Dysphoria?

Dysphoria is a deep feeling of unease or disconnect from your body — and even though it’s often talked about in relation to gender, it can show up in other ways.

You might feel dysphoric if:

• You’re recovering from surgery or illness where your body may feel unfamiliar or different from how you’ve known it.
  
  
• You’re wearing incontinence products that don’t make you feel empowered, and instead feel bulky, visible, or tight.
  
  
• You feel like you've lost control over something personal and private.
  
  
  

This discomfort isn’t just physical — incontinence can affect your body image, confidence, and even how you go about your day to day. 

The Emotional Impact of Adult Incontinence

Incontinence often arrives quietly, but its emotional impact can be loud. The changes can be hard to accept, especially when you might be wearing products that seem embarrassing, start dressing differently, or talking about your leaks to people you’re not ready to. It can feel like you have no say in how your body works.
 

And when products don’t align with your identity, that discomfort can intensify. People that identify as trans and non-binary, might find certain products or language to feel alienating. And for people with disabilities or chronic pain, managing incontinence can be a harsh reminder of a body that isn’t cooperating.

You’re not being over the top with how you feel, the experience can be challenging but the emotions are real, and they deserve extra care and a safe space to be released.

When Products Just Don’t Feel Right

Let’s be real: some incontinence products can make you feel like you’re wearing someone else’s body. Maybe the design is too gender specific, feels uncomfortable or can be noticed easily. Wearing these products shouldn’t define who you are.

Gender-neutral incontinence products such as our Invizi Pull-Up Pants and Slips, are designed to be discreet, comfy and extra absorbent, to help control those leaks. And if you don’t feel like they’re the right fit, you can always return them under our Invizi Fit Promise.

Ways to Reconnect With Yourself

We can’t always change our bodies or how they work, but it’s important to know that you’re not alone with how you feel. Here are some gentle ways to support yourself through the journey:

1. Have a Custom Routine

Routines can help us feel safe, steady, and more like ourselves. It could be packing your day bag in a certain way, how you pick out your products, or taking a moment to breathe before a change — every little ritual can help you feel at ease and take back some control of your body.

2. Move at Your Own Pace

It’s okay if you’re taking time to adjust to big changes, acceptance of the situation and of your body can feel like a big ask, but that feeling is only natural.

Be kind to yourself, and don’t feel pressured to “bounce back” or “get over it” quickly. Talking to yourself in the mirror with positive affirmations is a great strategy to feel empowered, and not be defined by incontinence.

Try talking to yourself in the mirror with a few gentle affirmations, like:

• “I’m doing the best I can.”
• “My body deserves care, not shame.”
• “Incontinence doesn’t define me.”
• “I am patient with myself today.”
  
  

These small reminders can help you feel more grounded and confident — and remind you that you're still you.

3. Talk to Someone Who Gets It

You don’t have to carry all the emotional weight on your shoulders. A friend, family member, a therapist, or support group, can help make you feel understood.

Seeing your doctor can also help you to get personalised advice on dysphoria and strategies to help cope with the emotional impact, just as much as the physical.

Your Feelings Matter 

Incontinence can feel incredibly isolating — especially when it brings up unexpected emotional responses like dysphoria. But it’s nothing to feel ashamed about, and shouldn’t come in the way of your identity. 

With the right support, products that work for you, and a lot of self-acceptance, you can find a sense of balance that honours who you are, how you feel, and what you need.

Just a quick note: this isn’t medical advice. These tips might help manage some symptoms, but if you’re still unsure on ways to overcome feelings of dysphoria, it’s best to seek advice from your doctor. They’ll help you make the best decision for your body.